[rescue] Sigh

[James Lockwood]

On Fri, 7 Jun 2002, Joshua D Boyd wrote:

> But you two lived together a while, as you said.  We aren't living
> together, so it would obviously be a bigger change.

<soapbox>

Unless the two of you are absolutely and utterly opposed to "living in
sin", I highly recommend it.  Naah, the heck with diplomacy.  Even if you
are opposed I highly recommend it.  It's a more significant change in and
of itself than marriage is.

Think about it: would you recable an entire network and upgrade the OS on
production machines without some time in between to test?  When you're in
unfamiliar waters, change one thing at a time.  This is almost a sysadmin
mantra.  This is not a part of your life you want to have to revert from
backups[1].

You've said you want to "save yourself" for marriage.  Fine.  My opinion
is, however, that you have a better shot at a happy marriage if you've
lived together and not slept together than vice versa.  Most couples end
up spending more time living together than having sex (I know someone will
point out a tongue-in-cheek counter example, but I say it anyway).

</soapbox>

-James

1. Unfortunately my plan to have separate "test" and "production"
relationships was vetoed[2].

2. I will not make a joke about "hot-swappability".